Sharon G Cobb

What is Intimacy Part 3

SharonGCobb — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 23:12:31 +0000

As previously discussed in part 2, there are many areas and levels of intimacy. Yes, intimacy does include the physical, but it also includes the emotional, social, mental and spiritual aspects as well. Emotional intimacy is not the same as sexual intimacy which is found under the physical realm. However, many people mix up the two. Sexual intimacy can take place with or without emotional intimacy and emotional intimacy can exist without any kind of sexual context. A brief moment of intense, ecstatic closeness such as a sexual encounter must not be distorted as an indication of an intimate relationship!

“One person is a friend to another if he is friendly to the other and the other is friendly to him in return” (Aristotle, 330 B.C., trans. 1991, pp 72-73).

By definition emotion is sensitivity to feelings which include an excitement or agitation of pleasure, pain, attraction or repulsion. Intimacy can be defined as a delicate communication; a close, warm relationship which is private, personal and belongs to one’s deepest nature. In combining the two words we find that emotional intimacy is a warm and personal communication that is sensitive to deep feelings and cares for another’s state of emotional well being. Reis and Shaver (1988), Patterson (1984) and Reis and Patrck (1996) agree with this definition.

But… what does that REALLY mean?

Well, it means that emotional intimacy is unbridled sharing. It is a mutual self disclosure based upon a pyschological event that occurs when the trust level and communication between two people deepen. We share are deepest desires, dreams, fears..the good, bad and ugly in an emotionally intimate relationship. Emotional intimacy isn’t created instantly. It takes time to foster and create true emotional intimacy because it takes time to build trust. We need to trust that we will still be accepted when we do share ourselves openly. Even though it takes time to grow it is certainly the glue that holds relationships together.

We seek on both the conscious and subconscious levels to feel wholly accepted, respected, worthy, admired and loved. We seek a place to shelter us when we feel down and weary and need compassion and support. Stahmann, Young, and Grover (2004) note that “all human beings have the basic need to be intimate and close with another person” (p 13). In the absence of emotional intimacy relationships become strained and often fail. This is reflected in studies associated with the staggering divorce rates. However keep in mind that emotional intimacy is not reserved for a “romantic relationship”. How many times have you heard a teenager say “Noone understands me”?

We can and should be emotionally intimate with:

Male friends
Female friends
Our children
Our siblings
Mentors
Spiritual leaders
Our Parents
Our Mate/Partner

Why? While one of our deepest and most fulfilling emotionally intimate relationship will be with a romantic partner, that partner can not fulfill our every need. Yes there will be varying levels of emotional intimacy with friends and family! Naturally the level and depth of emotional intimacy with a friend would not be the same as the level and depth of your partner. But nonetheless, we can and should develop emotionally intimate relationships with others.

What is Intimacy?

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Sharon G. Cobb is an educator by career. She has spent over 12 years in the classroom teaching individuals and groups of many ages. Holding a B.S. in Science, M.Ed. in Gifted Education, Ed.S. candidate in curriculum and instructions as well as life experiences gives Sharon a unique edge and insight to people, learning styles and how the brain works. Through her fascination with the brain, Sharon has also studied hypnosis, sought to understand the mechanics of mass hypnosis and the impact on society and culture. Sharon is a certified Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner and Hypnotist.

What is Intimacy Part 2

SharonGCobb — Mon, 25 Jun 2012 04:36:07 +0000

To accurately define intimacy, someone once said, “True intimacy is the ability to share who you really are with another person. This implies the other person is also able to share who they really are with you.” ~Don and Angie Carter

Intimacy as “into me see” is a great way of thinking about the term. When we allow others to truly see inside, we are experiencing intimacy. Intimacy means sharing your life completely with another (the good, the bad and the ugly).

There are many areas and levels of intimacy. Yes, intimacy does include the physical, but it also includes the emotional, social, mental and spiritual aspects as well. Even in the physical realm, sex is not the only means of expressing intimacy. Non-sexual touching is a part of intimacy in the physical realm, for example.

Physical intimacy begins before birth when every individual is wrapped snuggly inside his/her mother’s womb. The baby feels the swaying of the mother’s body, the warmth of the fluid and the sides of her womb. This is the baby’s safe haven; the place of security.

After birth and upon the first contact of a newborn with his/her mother, hormones cascade through the babies body. These hormones benefit the babies health and help him/her regulate his body temperature. The stress hormone is lowered by human touch which leads to a better sleep pattern in infants. Oxytocin, the bonding hormone, rises during physical contact between parents and their newborn child which increases feelings of attachment.

Research has shown that babies who don’t receive human contact in their first days or weeks of life very often suffer from health problems related to the deprivation of physical touch. They can exhibit a failure to thrive. This condition is seen in children who did not receive enough human contact when they were babies in orphanages. It has been reported that death can be the result of newborns denied physical contact even when they are sheltered and fed properly.

As an infant grows, the means and type of human contact changes. We no longer need to be swaddled by our mother, for example. However, the need to be hugged and held still exists throughout ones’ life span. This is innately built into humans! We know we want it and feel the need for it even if we don’t understand why.

Yes, touch is the first sense to develop in the womb and the last sense to leave in old age. The health and well being of human’s emotional, physical and mental development hinges upon physical intimacy. Therapist and author Virginia Satir believes humans need four hugs a day for survivial, eight hugs a day for maintenance and 12 hugs a day for growth. And she isn’t the only one!

Much research upholds that the benefits found to newborns and infants, holds true throughout a person’s lifetime. The health benefits are phenomenal. Touch offers relaxation, reassurance and comfort. It reduces depression, anxiety, stress and physical pain; and can be healing. The number of immune cells in the body is increased by touch. Behavior and mood is powerfully affected by physical intimacy as well. Touch therapy is offered as an alternative medicine for these reasons and more!

Ways to share physical intimacy may include but is not limited to:

A handshake
A smile
Eye to eye contact
Brush of the hand
Holding hands
Hand in arm
Arm around neck
Hand in the small of the back
Brush of a cheek
A poke
A buddy punch
A slap on the back
Playing footsies
Tickling
A hug
Snuggling
Massage (feet, hand, back, shoulders, neck etc)
A wink
Carressing
Kissing
Sex

And the list goes on and on!

The type of physical intimacy we share is dictated by our relationship as well as the appropriate time and place to share physical intimacy. Nonetheless, physical intimacy is an important aspect of the WHOLE!

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What is Intimacy?

SharonGCobb — Thu, 14 Jun 2012 04:08:16 +0000

Intimacy Vs. Sex

Sexuality and sexualization are not the same things. The healthy realm of sexuality involves the whole person. Unhealthy sexuality does not. Sexualization falls under unhealthy sexuality. Sexualization focuses on a person only as a “sex” object. One of the negative consequences associated with sexualization is the inability to be really satisfied. The search for more, better and different is always looming.

According to research some people feel the dissatisfaction quicker than others. But the inevitable always happens and is known as “the morning after syndrome” although the effects may be several mornings or even months into a “relationship”.

Dr. Henry Brandt explains this by stating “we wake up and find…the sexual relationship does not satisfy us anymore”. Looking at others through the sexualization glasses creates a situation where true intimacy is void. Sexualization gives us the impression of instant gratification. But this instant gratification is based purely on sex. Our culture tends to use the word sex and intimacy interchangeably when the words and/or concepts do not mean the same things. Confusion sets in through our subconscious mind and innate needs. Not only this but sexualization contributes to intimacy disorders in individuals. According to the APA (American Psychological Association) sexualization of females in media can lead to intimacy disorders in males.

Join me in exploring true intimacy!

Learn more about sexuality vs. sexualization here:
Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 1

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 2

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 3

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 4

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Sexuality vs. Sexualization Part 4

SharonGCobb — Wed, 30 May 2012 16:10:24 +0000

Unhealthy sexuality can arise for multiple reasons. Although many have confused sexuality with sexualization, it is apparent that the two are not the same. Many people look at our world and the sexual imagery bombarding us and say “it is normal”. They look at other’s only through sexual eyes and say “it is normal” when in fact it is not. When we leave out other aspects of a human it is no longer healthy sexuality as we have seen in the previous parts of this article. Sexualization falls under unhealthy sexuality. Can we say unhealty sexuality comes before sexualization or that sexualization comes before unhealthy sexuality? In some cases, no we can not.

But we can say, without a doubt, that sexualization can and does lead to unhealthy sexuality for both men and women. According to the APA (American Psychological Association)

There are several components to sexualization, and these set it apart from healthy sexuality. Sexualization occurs when

a person’s value comes only from his or her sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion of other characteristics;
a person is held to a standard that equates physical attractiveness (narrowly defined) with being sexy;
a person is sexually objectified—that is, made into a thing for others’ sexual use, rather than seen as a person with the capacity for independent action and decision making; and/or
sexuality is inappropriately imposed upon a person.

All four conditions need not be present; any one is an indication of sexualization. The fourth condition (the inappropriate imposition of sexuality) is especially relevant to children. Anyone (girls, boys, men, women) can be sexualized. But when children are imbued with adult sexuality, it is often imposed upon them rather than chosen by them states the APA. Children are not of adult mind to make such decisions.

Based on research from several organizations including the APA virtually every media form is overloaded with sexualization of women. This includes television, music videos, music lyrics, movies, magazines, sports media, video games, the internet and advertising.

In study after study, the findings have been that women are portrayed in a sexual manner more often than men. They are dressed in revealing clothing, with bodily postures or facial expressions that imply they are ready for sex. And they are objectified by being made into objects for decoration or as body parts alone. In addition, a narrow standard of physical beauty is heavily emphasized. The prevasiveness of such imagery is astounding in today’s culture. And it is having a negative impact leading to unhealthy sexuality across the board. It only stands to reason. If we continuously put images into our brains that fall into the category of sexualization and objectification and we know “sexualization” falls in the unhealthy sexuality circle then there will be a negative impact. It is logical.

But not only is it logical. It is proven.
Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 1

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 2

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 3

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Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 3

SharonGCobb — Wed, 23 May 2012 18:28:37 +0000

Certain characteristics are innate but they can be modified by interactions with the environment. Sexuality is no exception. Human sexuality is driven by genetics and mental activity produced by our environment, as mentioned in prior articles. Because of the impact “nurture” can have on humans, unhealthy views, thoughts or feelings can be created and propelled to deep seated beliefs.

Unhealthy sexuality falls into the catergory created by environmental impact. The circle of sexuality as shown in Dr. Amy Schalat’s work, depicts sexuality in five interconnected circles. The circles represent five broad areas of sexuality – sensuality, intimacy, sexual identity, sexual health and reproduction and sexualization.

Sensuality deals with body image, pleasure, touch, and attraction. Unhealthy sexuality in this circle may include a poor body image and not being “okay” with size, shape or proportions. Feeling ashamed of pleasure associated with sexual touch, thoughts or feelings that would other wise be deemed as normal also falls under the sensuality circle of unhealthy sexuality.

Sharing, caring, liking, loving, emotional risk taking and vulnerability fall inside the intimacy circle. Intimacy focuses on emotional closesness rather than physical closeness of sensuality. An example of unhealthy sexuality in this circle would be the inability to share personal information, thoughts and feelings with others. Lack in the area of compassion and understanding for others also falls into this circle.

Negative feelings associated with sexual identity along with lack of education concerning sexually transmitted diseases can lead to unhealthy sexuality. Misguided thoughts creating negative emotions around an aspect of life that can cause both pleasure and pain can generate avoidance of many aspects of sexuality.

Sexualization is given room inside the circles of sexuality. Sexualization spans behaviors from relatively mild to harsh and inhuman. The degree of unhealthiness in this circle is determined by a few factors:

1. Which end of the spectrum the sexualization resides.

2. The degree of dysfunction in other circles or if this is the only functioning circle.
Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 1

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 2

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 4

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Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 2

SharonGCobb — Wed, 16 May 2012 02:07:46 +0000

According to McKinley Health Center of The University of Illinois, healthy sexuality involves:

recognizing that we are sexual beings.
celebrating the benefits of sexuality on our physical, emotional and spiritual states.

Through our sexuality we have and enjoy control over our sexual and reproductive behavior. We readily recognize that our lives our enriched and we feel no guilt, fear or shame about our sexuality. Pleasure and emotions are shared through sexual expression and it carries a wide range of possibilities; sharing fun activities, feelings, thoughts, hugs, touching and various forms of intimacy. But this is true ONLY through healthy sexuality.

Wendy Maltz developed a healthy sexuality model called CERTS. The CERTS model requires that the following conditions be met for a person to enjoy the fruit of healthy sexuality: Consent, Equality, Respect, Trust, and Safety.

Consent

Consent means you can freely and comfortably choose whether or not to engage in sexual activity. You are able to stop the activity at any time during the sexual contact. It also means that you respect when someone else does not want to engage in a particular activity, for any reason.

Equality

Equality means your sense of personal power is on an equal level with your partner. Neither of you dominates the other.

Respect

Respect means you have positive regard for yourself and for your partner. You feel respected by your partner and you respect them.

Trust

Trust means you trust your partner on both a physical and emotional level. You have mutual acceptance of vulnerability and an ability to respond to it with sensitivity.

Safety

Safety means you feel secure and safe within the sexual setting. You are comfortable with and assertive about where, when and how the sexual activity takes place. You feel safe from the possibility of harm, such as unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infection, and physical injury.

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 1

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 3

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Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 1

SharonGCobb — Wed, 09 May 2012 05:05:25 +0000

Today I was reading some research articles and personal opinion pieces. I ran across a personal opinion piece with research inserted but greatly distorted! The primary focus of the article was simply this:

1. Women have the “right” to be sexualized.
2. Sexualization is sexuality.

In reading the information it was fairly obvious the author was a tad confused on the topic and felt women had the right to be sexualized based upon a misunderstanding of the two words. Sexuality and Sexualization are not the same things! In fact, sexuality is not sex and is not gender. I began to wonder just how many others might be confused. Let’s look at sexuality and sexualization for a few minutes.

Sexuality can be defined as the quality or state of being sexual. Often it is an aspect of one’s need for closeness, caring and touch. Humans are sexual beings. Sexuality is driven by genetics and mental activity created by our environments. It is created both by nature and nurture and generates strong emotional and psychological responses. A human’s sexuality is largely developed in childhood but continues to mature over time.

Sexual attraction is an important aspect of sexuality. Under normal conditions, each individual determines the qualities they find attractive. But do we live under normal conditions?

Sexuality can be expressed in many different ways including affectionate and sensual avenues but it is merely one aspect of our personalities and life.

Even though humans are naturally sexual, distortions can and do occur. Experiences and exposures can have a large impact on sexuality. These experiences and exposures impacting sexuality can occur even in young developmental years. As a result, healthy or unhealthy sexuality begins to develop.

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 2

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 3

Sexuality Vs. Sexualization Part 4

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Guest Post: Social Media and the Dangerous Sexualization of Girls

SharonGCobb — Tue, 01 May 2012 03:35:53 +0000

Social Media and the Dangerous Sexualization of Girls

Adolescence has always been a time of an often confusing awareness of ways to attract the opposite sex. With puberty coming at ever younger ages, an increasing number of girls under the age of ten are experiencing physical changes that take them from “cute” and “pretty” to “sexy”. This has left their parents, and their peers, with the false impression that they have officially entered puberty. Not so, says a major study published recently in Pediatrics. However, society in general, and social media in particular, encourages sexy behaviors in young girls to the point that it is often accepted as normal.

Whatever normal is.

Maybe we don’t know what normal is. Or maybe we’ve become blind to the dangers.

Webcams on laptops and smartphones create an environment where girls in middle school, or even elementary school, are taking pictures of everything and posting to social media. Video chats are the new “in thing”, and many girls wouldn’t be caught without makeup on and every hair in place – at the age of nine or ten. The competition for “likes” has become the new peer measure of success, and revealing skin is a sure attention grabber. Regardless of the moral highroad taken by their parents, girls hear the media message that sexy is good, un-sexy is bad, and they’ve soaked that message into every fiber of their being. And girls that don’t resonate with the message and try to resist are experiencing heavy pressure – if not outright bullying – to conform.

Airbrushed models strut their stuff leaving girls with an impossible image to try to emulate, while parents stick their heads in the sand and think it’s cute.

Youtube channels provide abundant evidence of the sexualization of girls through social media, and there is no built-in safety for the innocence of children.

The dangers are impossible to measure, but simple to predict. Pictures on social media sites are forever. Pedophiles and stalkers cruise chat rooms and the worst situations make news headlines. Treatment centers make a very good living from the tragedies of eating disorders and addictions that result when girls grow a little older and are willing to do whatever it takes to keep that sexy look.

Snap a picture – you’re still a young girl. You are not your body, you have a body. You are a whole person who has swallowed the lie that your value is in your ability to grab boys’ attention with your looks, make other girls jealous, and make grown men stare and blush.

Adding fuel to the fire of early sexualization is a generation of parents who have lost sight of the sacredness of their daughters. Preschoolers learn to use spell-check and accept constant cameras as the norm, while their parents struggle to understand the power of social media and decry the changing fashions. And the most dangerous of all are the parents who firmly believe their daughters would never be involved with webcams or sexting or youtube videos, while the television streams messages into their children’s minds from birth about what society deems important.

If you’re a parent of daughters, take the pulse of your daughter’s sexualization.

DO NOT wait to have a discussion about appearances, sexy behaviors and appropriate behavior until when you assume your daughter is about to hit puberty. By then it is too late.

DO NOT assume that just because you refuse to allow your daughter to have a smart phone or a computer in her room that she isn’t posing for other friends’ cameras and posting on social media sites without your knowledge.

DO NOT think that your sweet daughter is not in danger. Assume that she has heard the “sexy message” loud and clear from her peers and from the media.

There is hope. Parents who see the danger can provide their daughters the tools they need and can make every effort to keep them safe. The message that your daughter’s value lies only in her sexuality is an ugly one, embraced by society and flaunted daily around in world in pageants, board rooms, bedrooms and schools. You will be fighting an uphill battle and your message may be drowned out by the avalanche of pressures your daughter will experience before she ever turns thirteen. Here are six ways you can give your daughter a better message that may give her a fighting chance.

Pay attention to the messages coming into your home through television and the internet. Make choices. Your daughter is the proverbial sponge; choose what input she receives.
Talk about the media messages your daughter will receive. Start early – start earlier than you think you have to, and even then she may respond with something like, “Oh I already know all about that.” Talk about the airbrushed bodies and the pressures to always be “on”. Talk about what’s really important and what it means to be a whole person.
Give your daughter information. Dressing sexy and taking sexy pictures to upload onto a Facebook page isn’t just something to say no to – there are many very good reasons that isn’t a good idea and your daughter needs to know them. Give her insights into what makes men tick – the hardwiring that means they’ll respond to “sexy” in a way that your daughter needs to be aware of.
Stay involved in your daughter’s life, even if she tries to push you out. It may not be the popular thing to get to know her friends and their parents; do it anyway.
“Everyone is doing it” isn’t a good reason to have a webcam when you’re nine, any more than its okay to have a drink when you’re sixteen.
Find ways to communicate to your daughter that she is priceless, that her body is sacred, and that she will hear lies her whole life that try to say her value is in being sexy. Be a louder more insistent message.

Social media is “on” 24/7. The pressures girls face to accept the definition of their sexualized value fueled by social media are enormous and often control every area of their lives. The only way to combat that message is to be intentional and constant and insistent about their real value.

Who you are is beautiful. You will feel sexy sometimes and will look sexy sometimes and that is a precious thing in the right context. But who you are is far more than just how you look.

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Ronae Jull is a prolific writer, parenting and addictions coach, and published author. With more than 25 years’ experience working with families, she remains passionate about hope and the capacity of the human spirit to heal from old hurts and live an abundant life. Ronae’s latest book “A Bigger Bandaid: hope for parents abused as children” is available on Amazon. You can read more from Ronae on her website Hope Coaching with Ronae Jull, or find her on Facebook or Twitter.

Battle of the Sexes

SharonGCobb — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 23:23:54 +0000

When the women’s rights movement first came about, females were not seeking equality as we term it now. They were seeking “rights”; equal rights. Women wanted the right to vote, own land and hold jobs for the same wages as men. Women also wanted males to be guided and judged by the same moral compass as women were held to. For example, if it is wrong for a female to sleep around, then it is also wrong for a male. Wrong is wrong – right?

  But we are assembled to protest against a form of government
  existing without the consent of the governed -- to declare
  our right to be free as man is free, to be represented in
  the government which we are taxed to support, to have such
  disgraceful laws as give man the power to chastise and
  imprison his wife, to take the wages which she earns, the
  property which she inherits, and, in case of separation, the
  children of her love; laws which make her the mere dependent
  on his bounty.  It is to protest against such unjust laws as
  these that we are assembled today, and to have them, if
  possible, forever erased from our statute books, deeming
  them a shame and a disgrace... (Stanton, 1891).

Somewhere, however, along the way this quest for equal rights became a battle of the sexes; an “anything men can do, women can do…better” mentality. Men, in trying to prove a point, furthered the issue by somewhat daring women to take on more “manly” jobs. Appreciation and celebration of the differences in the sexes were, largely, lost due to misconstrued intentions. This is not what the women’s rights movement was ever meant to be.

  We need not prove ourselves equal to Daniel Webster to enjoy this
  privilege, for the ignorant Irishman in the ditch has all
  the civil rights he has.  We need not prove our muscular
  power equal to this same Irishman to enjoy this privilege,
  for the most tiny, weak, ill-shaped stripling of twenty-one
  has all the civil rights of the Irishman.  We have no
  objection to discuss the question of equality, for we feel
  that the weight of argument lies wholly with us, but we wish
  the question of equality kept distinct from the question of
  rights, for the proof of the one does not determine the
  truth of the other.  All white men in this country have the
  same rights, however they may differ in mind, body, or
  estate (Stanton, 1891).

Now I’m not here to tell you men and women are not equal. I am of the same mind as Elizabeth Cady Stanton. We are equal as human beings with human rights. We all should be able to be educated, own property, vote, be treated fairly, just and right. But, we are foolish people to attempt to say we aren’t different or that women can do anything a man can do (or visa versa). Seriously, isn’t it fairly obvious? Even from early ages before anyone has any major influence on them, children show innate differences. If you have ever observed newborns and infants, you know this is true. And even for those wanting to adhere to no differences, Science has long proven definitive differences in many avenues of the male and female bodies. These differences dictate the way we think, act and what we are able to do.

“These discernible, measurable differences in behaviour have been imprinted long before external influences have had a chance to get to work. They reflect a basic difference in the newborn brain which we already know about …” (Jessel & Moir, 1993).

Men and women are different! We were designed for different things. Try as we may, our bodies can not handle a “man’s” work. Now I’m not talking short term necessarily although to some degree this is also true. Let me give you an example or two:

Picking up a refrigerator. I can’t, most women I know can’t. Most men I know can! Can a woman employ tools to accomplish the task? Sure! But that isn’t the point.
Working on a boiler. A woman can do this but often needs a man’s assistance. But in the long run, her body wears down quicker. Statistics show women can not do the same level of physical labor for the same period of time without harming her body to a larger degree than a man’s.

With that same token, women can give birth and breastfeed a child. Men cannot and they are often the brunt of comments such as a man can’t handle “that” kind of pain.

Let me give you a little more scientific example: The average 18- year-old man is 70.2 inches tall and weighs 144.8 pounds, whereas the average woman of the same age is 64.4 inches tall and weighs 126.6 pounds. This difference in size affects the absolute amount of physical work that can be performed by men and women. ~Human Physiology Differences in the Sexes, Enlisted Field Manual

But the differences and mysteries go much deeper than this.

We are equal! But we are also different!

Come visit again as we delve into the wonderful differences of our opposite yet equal gender.

Learn to appreciate and celebrate…

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Hate Men

SharonGCobb — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 03:03:17 +0000

Several days ago, I ran across a quote I adopted due to three serious questions I often get asked.

You don’t have to be anti-man to be pro-woman. ~Jane Galvin Lewis

This quote is very fitting based upon some real misconceptions that seem to loom around women when it comes to supporting our rights. Let me go ahead and address the questions I’ve been asked several times over.

1. No, I do not run a chapter of the She-Woman, Men Haters Club!

I’m not sure why it is that if a person opposes women being used as objects others automatically decide that person must be a man-hater.

You know, a female version of The Little Rascals:

But I assure you, I do not hate men. I absolutely LOVE men! My grandfather, father, brothers, sons and now grandson are all of the male gender and all except my grandson, are grown men. I’ve even actually dated, loved and married a man! Can you imagine! lol

Men are great and wonderful beings. And, in spite of what some would say, men can do things I can not and do not want to do. They possess characteristics and qualities I greatly admire. My thoughts would be more accurately depicted below: